“A couple of weeks after assuming ownership of my home care company, I had my first “official” caregiving experience. My administrative staff had signed up a new client in the afternoon, and he needed overnight care that same night. The new client lived in a remote location, and we had no caregivers who were available to go to the distant assignment on such short notice.
Rather than losing the business, I chose to go to the man’s home that night. As I spent the evening with my client, he told me his story. He was an 86-year-old immigrant who came from Eastern Europe to the US during WWII and had spent his life breeding horses for steeplechase racing. Trophies surrounded his living room, and he showed me photos from his elite steeplechase victories. We talked late into the evening, and I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know him. When he was tired, I turned down his bed and offered assistance, but he needed very little help. He woke up a couple of times during the night to use the bathroom. I got up with him but discovered again that he needed little to no assistance. In the morning, I prepared a hot breakfast for the man and left at the appointed time.
After a couple more nights with our caregivers, the man canceled services. He said he didn’t think he needed our assistance. From my observation, I thought he was right.
Why did the man engage our home care company in the first place?
His employees had contacted our company for in-home care. The man lived alone in a spacious ranch house, surrounded by his horse farm. His employees lived elsewhere on the farm and arose early every morning to tend to the animals. One morning, the man never came out of his house. After several hours passed, the employees entered the man’s home and found him lying on the floor. He had fallen in the middle of the night and couldn’t get up. He had laid there for 10 hours. The employees immediately took him to the hospital, where they found nothing wrong, and the man returned home. Concerned about another potential fall during the night, the employees called our home care company for overnight companionship. The man was never totally on board with the idea of caregivers staying with him overnight, so after a few nights, he canceled our services. We never heard from him again.”
This is from a story Dr. Blight shared with me, when we met for the first time. Does this feel surreal? Never mind, which side of the caregiving equation you are on, the prospect of an incident like this imminent.
CARING FOR A PARENT, SPOUSE, OR RELATIVE who cannot care for themselves due to age, infirmity, or illness is one of the noblest human activities. It’s also one of the most stressful, posing challenges that can be painful, confusing, frustrating, and deeply rewarding—sometimes all at once. When Caregiving Calls is an invitation to a deep conversation about caregiving and its meaning for you.
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